Building Back Up: Bouncing back from a difficult break up

Ah, high school. Lots of heartbreaks, sometimes even through all four years. Most of the time, it takes a toll on teenagers because they’re unsure of how to deal with a breakup. Wrapping one's head around what has just happened can be difficult sometimes. Now, don’t expect to bounce back to the old self within a few days or weeks. Realize that there is going to have a lot of good and bad days. No matter how one copes, it’ll all be better in the end. 

One of the most important things to do when going through a breakup is getting confidence back. Make time to do things one may enjoy doing with friends and family members. At the beginning, a person might be more sensitive than ever. So just take it easy on yourself, and relax. It’s completely normal to feel lonely at times, but make sure to not bottle up emotions or else one might explode. Instead, talk to trustworthy people about situations like these, or even write a journal entry to express emotions. When a person comes to terms with what has happened, it’s much easier to heal and move on. 

“I turn off my phone and try to think happy thoughts and spend time with friends and family,” Aaron Weis (11), who just recently went through a difficult breakup, said. 

One of the worst things a person can do after a breakup is lose self control, and engage in destructive coping mechanisms. It might feel tempting to use drugs, alcohol, or other  substances that could potentially cause even more problems for one to deal with further down the road. For the time being, it will feel like there are no worries in the world. But sooner than one may think, that high will wear off and they’re right back to square one. Set a routine to regain that sense of control. Do whatever is needed to help get a little bit of stability back into one's everyday life. 

“You just have to move on and not live in the past, because if you do that it will just get to you more than it already has. The sooner you stop thinking about that person, the happier you will be,” Jacob White (11), who is also going through a difficult, 6 month long, high school breakup, said. 

As previously stated, no matter which direction a person decides to go, everything will resolve itself in the end. They’ll end up becoming stronger than they were before, and will be ready to move on to someone who will either be another lesson, or someone who’s a miracle. Time will tell. Remember, it’s only high school. It’s very rare that high school sweethearts marry. There’s plenty of time to find the right one. Give it time and everything will fall into place. 

“It‘s going to hurt at first, but you know you just have to keep telling yourself that it’s going to be okay and that you will get through this,” Kaylee Mora (11) said, ”because high school relationships suck and most of the time don’t last, so don’t worry too much about it.”

​~Kennedi Adams- Design Editor-in-Chief